What does it take to heal? The willingness to see our own part in the creation of our life. We always have a choice: To receive for the sake of sharing or to receive for the self alone. When we receive for the sake of sharing, we open our hearts to all others and give whatever we can give in that moment: a smile, a hug, support, an ear. When we give, it reminds our inner self that we have so much, that we are not lacking, and that we are truly connected to all that exists in the world.
Your laboratory for this work is at home, at work, at shopping, at play. It's the people you encounter on a daily basis. Any relationship gives us the opportunity to feel compassion and forgiveness. And forgiveness is the work of this life.
Forgiveness is not condoning nor inviting bad behavior. Forgiveness is understanding that no one can truly hurt us and desiring to no longer carry resentment and bitterness. Forgiveness is essential for true happiness. And the person we need to forgive most is our self. Forgiveness of our self and others starts with understanding that all decisions and actions are based on a basic innocence within us. Our actions always stem from thoughts and intentions that are intended for self-protection, which stems from a deep belief that we are not safe and that we can be hurt. Because we feel we can be hurt, we protect and that protection often hurts others.
Watch yourself and others carefully for the next few weeks. Explore past relationships as well. See if you can detect the self-protection in yourself or others that leads to actions that seem unforgivable. Work to change your inner experience of life. Use the affirmation, "I am truly taken care of" and notice how you truly are taken care of. Count the blessings in your life and see them even in your hard times.
May your life continue to be filled with blessings and may you have the vision and clarity to recognize and acknowledge them always. Then you will feel true happiness.